By a friend, BethAnne Kapansky Clary
When somebody gives us a box of darkness, it’s easy to get lost in feeling wounded and wronged as we direct a lot of energy and anger in the direction of the person/s and situation/s we feel wronged by… which usually makes one end up feeling like they are a stuck tiring spinning fruitlessly in the mud as that waste of energy only gets them stuck deeper and ultimately hurts their own heart. Bitterness will soon become an infesting weed that prevents them from the growth they need in their own garden.
We would be much better served by simply tending to the wound than wasting energy further wounding. By tending to our own hearts with restoration and care and allowing them to grow into the beautiful gardens they are meant to be. By releasing any thoughts, hurts, systems, individuals, situations, or beliefs- as often as one needs- that do not help serve, grow, or tend our gardens. By transforming hurt into compassion. By changing our relationship to the things we cannot change. By loving ourselves enough to choose care of self over nurturing bitterness towards another.
We can only be responsible for ourselves… our hearts and happiness are at stake. That is worth continuing to let go of that which we cannot change and lovingly working on that which we can change- our self. ♥